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Later Nights… …Earlier Mornings: An Insomniac’s Tale of Life and Love
I’m not altogether sure where this is going to go…
…I am sure it’s going to go somewhere.
So stick with me, please?
… … …
Have you ever been torn, My Peeps?
Okay, I do realize that can be taken sooooo many ways…
(((many of them dirty dirty)))
…so I’ll do my best to clarify.
Have you ever been torn by LOVE?
Knowing you want to be with someone, but knowing you really enjoy the person you’re with at that moment?
…it has happened to me.
It has happened multiple times, honest.
As far back as I could remember, I was generally with one person while already having wanted, and still wanting, to be with a certain someone else.
I get with someone because they’re very special to me, but all the while I have someone else on the front of my brain.
Someone else whom I already love/want/need/require.
Someone else whom I know I probably can never, and will never, truly call “MINE.”
And, no matter how wonderful things might become with the one person, you still yearn for the certain someone else.
Knowing/Hoping/Feeling/Thinking things WOULD be better if you were truly with the someone else.
It’s crazy, I know.
But, I also believe it to be human nature.
I mean, it is, right?
“The Grass Is Always Greener Somewhere F*ckin’ Else, And All That Jazz!”
That’s how that goes, riiiiiiight?
Until last night, I truly was torn.
Torn between the lover I once had, whom is now an exceptionally close friend…
…and the man I’ve loved for over a year, whom isn’t mine in any way except in the ways that should truly truly matter.
I’ve been torn, because I can’t spend all the time with the both of them that I’d really like.
And, honestly, it had become harder to juggle.
Last night, however, I had a long talk with the now friend (former lover).
We discussed so much, it was amazing.
He’s not the easiest to speak to at times when the conversation is of a personal nature such as this one was.
But, last night, he was jovial.
He was kind.
He was insightful.
He was respectful.
And he flat-out told me that he felt things would be better for ME if I really did spend more time with the someone else.
He’s not dismissing me.
We’re still going to see each other a lot.
But, now, I truly have the freedom to spend all the time with the someone else whenever I choose.
I won’t have to dance around and be pissy because I have to cancel on one to see the other.
My friend wishes me to explore things with the someone else, knowing now how I truly feel.
Thing is, all of this took place around MIDNIGHT.
And it didn’t end there.
My friend and I stayed up talking for hours and hours, and it was a truly grand experience.
We watched some “BATTLESTAR GALACTICA” and some “STAR TREK: TNG”…
…and then we watched “DARKMAN” on the Blu-ray.
By 3:30am, I was texting with the someone else.
And things couldn’t be better, at least in regard to all of the before mentioned.
We’re all cool.
So, for the first time in a long time, the tension I’ve felt has lifted.
I feel amazingly contented and relaxed.
Happy to know I didn’t lose a good friend.
Happy to know I didn’t lose the man I love.
Happy to know things are working out exactly as I had hoped, instead of how I had sadly expected.
Expectations can be a major High, or a major Low Low Low.
I was in the midst of a Low Low Low mindset toward my Expectations.
Instead, I was surprised with the elation of everything working out as I’d truly hoped hoped hoped they would.
I finally went to sleep around 5:30am…
…and was awake and writing this by 7:30am.
I know good moods aren’t forever.
They don’t last.
They can’t last.
Not really real ones.
But, for now, I’m into a really good mood mindset.
And I’m really hoping it’s able to perpetuate for a while.
That would be very nice.
I could use more good days.
This is the first time in a long long long time my not being able to sleep has led to something positive.
Insomnia almost always sucks ass.
Last night, it was an asset.
Go figure, eh?
“Wise Men Say… …Only Fools Rush In…” ((“CAN’T HELP FALLING IN LOVE” by ELVIS PRESLEY (1961)))
“…But, I Can’t Help…
…Falling In Love With You…”
“…Shall I Stay?…
…Would It Be A Sin?…
…If I Can’t Help…
…Falling In Love With You?…”
“…Like A River Flows…
…Surely To The Sea…
…Darling, So It Goes…
…Some Things Are Meant To Be…”
“…Take My Hand…
…Take My Whole Life, Too…
…For I Can’t Help…
…Falling In Love With You. …”
So, Yeah, I’ve Been On A Bit Of An ELVIS Kick, Recently.
I Mean, Can You Really Blame Me?
The Man Was A Master Of His Craft, Fo SHO.
His Music Never Fails To Make Me Smile…
…And, Sometimes, That’s Really All I’m Looking For In Some Quality Tunage.
This Particular Song…
“CAN’T HELP FALLING IN LOVE“
…Is A Prime-Cut-Example Of Said Quality Tunage.
This Was Actually One Of The Very First ELVIS Songs I’d Ever Heard, And It Has Continued To Be A Personal Favorite Since Early Childhood.
To My Friends, I Was Always A Bit Weird In This Regard.
While They Were Busy Listening To The Jams Of The Day…
…The Current Top 40, And So On…
…I Was Busy Listening To The Songs Of My Parent’s Youth.
While Most Rebelled And Shied Away From Their Parents Music…
…I Embraced It.
This Song Has Been Stuck In My Head For A Little While Now…
…And Y’all Know How I Operate.
When Something Is Locked Into My Brain, I Have But One True Outlet:
I Blog About It.
I Honestly Don’t Have A Ton To Say About This Little Number…
…Aside From How Brilliantly Beautiful It Truly Is.
It’s A Song That Sincerely Will Stick With You, As It Has With Me My Entire Life.
It Is, By Far, One Of The Most Wonderfully Simple Songs Ever To Spring Forth From The World That Is ELVIS PRESLEY…
…And It Is A Song I’m Very Happy To Share With Y’all, This Morning.
I Hope You Do Enjoy It, My Peeps.
Perhaps You Won’t Love It As Much As I Do…
…But, It’s Very Hard To Scoff At.
A True-Blue-Classic If Ever There Was One.
Take Care, And Be Good, My Peeps.
Much Love To You All.
I’m Sure We’ll Have Much More To Discuss As The Year Rolls On…
…But, I Just Had To Share This One With You.
ENJOY, My Peeps, ENJOY!!!
So, I’ve Had A String Of Overtly Off Moments, Lately…
…And Tonight It Has Really Snowballed Into A Very Deep Depression.
I Know Most Say You Shouldn’t Write For Publication At Times Like These, But, In This Case, It Can’t Be Helped.
It’s Not Your Usual Depression About Your Usual Mundane Bullshit.
Not This Time, Anyway.
For Those Of You Whom Have Read Me For The Past (almost) Two Years, You Know That, While I Do Acquaint Myself With Other People On Occasion, I Generally Spend Most Of My Time Alone.
I Live In My Head, And Am Generally Not The Best Of Company.
I Tend To Be Really Quiet,,, ,,,Except When I Laugh.
I Get My Money’s Worth When I Do Bellow Out A Jolly One.
Aside From My Eyes, My Best Feature May Actually Be That Laugh.
I Even Snort… …On Occasion.
That Generally Means I’ve Laughed Too Hard.
Sadly, Aside From The Time I Spend With Someone Very Special To Me, I Tend To Not Laugh At All.
I Giggle A Bit… …But It’s Internal.
Outwardly, I’m A Tad Cold.
The Problem Is…
...As It Always Is In My World...
…Knowing Some Of Those I Love Most, Are Those Whom Don’t Really Share The Feeling.
I Constantly Get The Feeling Other People Lie And Say They Enjoy My Company, But It’s Only Because They Truly (deep down) Feel Sorry For Me.
Seeing Me Makes Them Realize How Grand Their Life Has The Potential To Be, And Might Already Be.
I’ve Failed At Every Venture I’ve Ever Undertaken.
Every. Single. One.
…I Did Win A “First Place Superior” In The 6th Grade Science Fair.
But, They Gave Out Like 10 Of Those.
So, Honestly, It Never Felt Like A True Victory.
Anyway, Sorry, I’m Drifting.
The Point Is…
…I’ve Been The Saddest Boy In The World For The Past 48-Hours, And It’s Literally Driving Me Crazy.
My Thoughts And Feelings Have Been Running Rampant, And They’re Literally Driving Me (even more-so) Crazy!
Can I Pinpoint The Biggest Issue?
Can I Do Anything Whatsoever To Correct Said Biggest Issue?
Not. At. All.
I Know They Say You Shouldn’t Worry About What You Can’t Control, But Piss On Them.
They Just Don’t Get It, Or Are Lying To You AND Themselves.
I Can’t Control How I Feel…
…Yet It Constantly Worries The Everlasting Shit Out Of Me.
You Want A Little Detail?
I Have TWO (2) Best Friends…
…One Straight, One Gay.
The Straight One I’ve Known Since The Age Of 2yo, And We’ve Been Best Friends Since The Age Of 10yo.
The Gay One I’ve Known For Three Years…
…And I’ve Been In Love With Him For The Past Two.
That’s What Has Me So Depressed, Kiddies.
The Fact That I Can’t Get Myself Over Those Extra Feelings.
Loving Someone Is Important, Especially Someone You Call Your BFF.
But, Being IN-LOVE With Said BFF???
O M F G
I Don’t Even Know Where To Begin On How That Feels.
For The Most Part, It’s A Mix Of Extreme Joy AND Extreme Pain.
I’ve Loved Before, Sure.
I’ve Loved Many People In My 30+Years On Earth.
But, Never Like This.
Never This Strongly.
And, Yes, I Already Know It Has Very Little Chance To Become More Than What It Already Is…
…More Than What We Already Are.
Yet, I Don‘t Waiver.
I Don‘t Stop Feeling As I Do.
I Don‘t Stop Wanting As I Do.
Needing As I Do.
It‘s Killing Me.
It‘s Crushing What Spirit I May Have.
Yet, I Don‘t Waiver.
…You Tell Me, My Peeps…
…Am I A Fool, Or Just Being Foolish?
There IS A Difference, You Know… …Riiiiiiiiigh???
My Curiosity Abounds, Kiddies.
Honestly And Truly It Does!
Feeling Brilliant; Feeling Foolish: It Really Is A Fine FINE Line To Travel Upon…
…And Of That There Can Be Little Debate.
Granted, There Are People Whom Can AND Will Debate Anything AND Everything.
To Those People, Honestly, I Say…
“More Power To Ya.”
To The Rest Of Us Whom Teeter-Totter On The Edge Of The Before Mentioned “Feeling Brilliant” AND “Feeling Foolish” There Really Isn’t Much To Say Other Than…
“It’s Called LIFE. Deal With It. If You Don’t Get One Outcome, You’re ALMOST Assured To Get The Other. It’s Called LIFE.”
2013, Now More Than Half Over, Has Been A Year Filled With BOTH Feelings/Mindsets.
I Do Admit To Having A Few Truly Brilliant Moments, This Year.
True, They May Have Been Situations Where I Was Confident In The Outcome Ahead Of Time AND Was Thus Proved Correct.
But, Honestly, That Feels A Touch Beside The Point.
At Least, For Now. 😉
Sadly, However, 2013 Has Felt More And More AND MORE Like A Year Of Foolishness On My Part.
You Name It, Chances Are I Can Equate Whatever It Is Into Yet Another Foolish Moment For Yours Truly.
But, And I’m Curious About This In Many Respects, What Truly Is The Fine Line Between “Brilliance” And “Foolishness”???
Sadly, I Keep Coming Back To The Same One-Word Answer…
If Something Is A Winner, Chances Are You’ll Be Overtly Contented.
You’ll Be Feeling The Wondrous Side Of A Success, Regardless Of What It Is.
You’ll Most Likely Even Feel A Flash Of “Brilliance” Wash Over You.
…What If You Fail???
What If There Is No Real Success In Whatever It Is You’ve Attempted???
You’ll Be Feeling The Vile Side Of A Lost Chance At A Success…
…And Of That, I Sincerely Have No Doubts.
You Won’t Feel Any Waves Of “Brilliance” Afterward.
No, You’ll Be Feeling As I Do Most Of The Time.
You’ll Be Feeling Like A “Fool” And Feeling Listless In Wonder As To Where You Went Wrong.
I Think That’s Why I Love Baseball So Very Very Much.
It Truly Is More About Failure And Loss.
At Least, More So Than Anything Else.
Winning Is WONDERFUL!
Losing SUCKS ASS!
But, You Don’t Learn Much From Winning, Other Than The Elation Of The Actual Win.
You Do, On The Other Hand, Learn So So SO Much More From Defeat.
Now, I Know You’re All Waiting For Me To Divulge Some Of Said “Foolish” Moments, But I Don’t Really Think I Can.
Not Without Getting Myself, Or Others, In Trouble…
…Be They Person, Or Entity.
Honestly, The Moment I’m Going To Briefly Mention Is A Combo Of BOTH “Brilliance” AND “Foolishness” Like You Wouldn’t Believe.
You See, My Peeps My Friends The Kiddies, I’ve Been Living Through A Self-Imposed EXILE For Almost A Month, Now.
It’s Honestly Killing Me.
I’ve Never EVER Felt So Alone In My Life.
Hell, I Spent A Couple Months In Boot-Camp, Which Was About The Loneliest Time In My Life…
I Feel So Alone Because I’ve Simply Been Toooooooooooooo Damned Embarrassed To Be Around Other People.
Other Than My Immediate Family, Only ONE PERSON Has Seen Me AND Spent Time With Me While I’m In This Condition.
For Those Of You Whom Don’t Know…
…I FINALLY GOT MY ORAL SURGERY!
I Got It Last Month.
I’m Literally About Two-Weeks Away From Having A Perfect Smile, Again!
I Couldn’t Be Happier About That Part.
It’s The Waiting In-Between PHASE I And PHASE II That’s The Killer.
I Do Feel Brilliant For Finally Pulling The Trigger, Plunking Down The Money I Can’t Afford To Burn In Any Way, And Getting ALL Of My Teeth Fixed.
Trust Me, Kids, Years And Years AND YEARS Of Acid Erosion Can Be Dentally Devastating.
I’m A Living, Breathing Poster-Board For It.
Sadly, I Also Am Feeling Very VERY Foolish.
Foolish Because I Have, More Or Less, Gone Into Total Hiding.
I Don’t Go Anywhere ((save my morning walks)).
I Don’t Meet Other People.
I Stay As Totally Off The Social Grid As Possible.
I’m Sad, Yes.
I’m Lonely, Yes.
I’m Going Out Of My Mind In The Want/Need To Spend Time With Those Other People I Care Deeply For.
But, As Foolish As This Exile Has Been…
…For Me, Personally Personally, It Has Been Bordering On Brilliant.
I’ve Looked Bad In The Past…
…But I Really Don’t Want People Seeing Me At My Absolute Worst.
I’m Far Toooooo Self-Conscious For That.
So, By Adding The Pains Of Loneliness…
…And Racing Thoughts…
…It Adds Up To A Bit Of The “Foolish Factor” Feeling.
BUT, By Removing The Pains Of Embarrassment…
…And Extreme Paranoia Due To The Overt Self-Conscious Issues…
…I’m Experiencing A Touch Of The Ole “Brilliance Factor” Feeling, Also.
…What Do You Think?
Am I Just Being Foolish??
Or, Is There Even A Hint Of Brilliance To It???
Do YOU Often Feel Like This????--Yeah. You. In The Back. Pretending Not To Be Reading Over The Other Person's Shoulder.--
Do YOU Often Feel Like This, My Peeps?????
My Curiosity Abounds!
😀 😉 😀
BRADLEY -Vs- “DARK CITY”: A Rematch 15 Years In The Making!
I Was There.
I’ll Never Forget That Night, Honestly.
My Friends And I Had Decided Long Before It Was Released We Would Be Seeing This One On Said Opening Night.
Back In The 1980s And 1990s, That’s What Everyone Did On A Friday Night. You’d Meet-Up With Your Friends And You’d Head To The Local Movie Theater.
It Was Almost Like A Ritual. We Simply HAD HAD HAD To Go See Something.
Living In A Small Midwestern Town, It’s What We Had To Do.
It Was Our Best Option For Having A Good Time. It Was Either That, Or Go Walk Around The Mall.
I Know, Right, We Were Lame.
…We All Loaded-Up And Drove A Few Towns Over To The Much Larger Theater.
It’s About A 25-Minute Drive.
(((well we probably made it in less than 20-minutes, but it's SUPPOSED to take longer)))
Upon Entering The Theater, I Was Immediately Horrified To Find It Totally Packed.
The Only Seats Left Weren’t Ideal, To Say The Least.
We Took Said Seats, Anyway.
We Weren’t About To Miss This Flick.
Sadly, The Theater Was BLAZING-ASS-HOT!
Not Hot As In “Hip & Cool”…
…I Mean It Was F-in’ HOT HOT HOT Like Hell’ishly HOT!
Like 714-Degrees HOT!
It Was February, And Therefore Cold Outside.
So, The Theater People Had The Heat Cranked Allllll The Way Up.
That’s How It Felt, Anyway.
Couple That With A Totally Packed House, And Yeah.
HOT HOT HOT!!!
The People Sitting In Front Of My Friends And I Never Stopped Gabbing. Someone’s Pocket-Pager Went Off Like 10-Times. I Couldn’t Follow The Plot Very Well Because Of The Distractions And Became Very Confused As To What The Hell Was Really Going On.
It Was All Too Much.
Add In The Fact That “DARK CITY” Is A Dark, Slower-Paced Thriller And It Becomes Easier To Understand Why I Left The Theater Afterward Vowing To NEVER Watch This Flick Ever Ever EVER AGAIN!
And I Didn’t.
For 15 Years, My Vow Stood Strong And Unwavering.
That Is, Until Very Recently.
Seeing “DARK CITY” On Opening Night Was THE WORST THEATER EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE.
It Had Totally Tainted My View Of The Movie.
You See, I Took-Out My Frustrations Of The Night On The Film. I Shouldn’t Have, But I Did.
Upon Watching It Again, Finally, After 15 Years, I Finally Realized I Had Made A Horrid Mistake.
“DARK CITY” Really Is A Quality Flick, My Peeps.
Watching It In The Comfort Of My Own Home, Without Distractions, I Was Able To Finally Appreciate It For What It Is.
A Very Good SCI-FI THRILLER.
It’s Well Acted.
(((starring RUFUS SEWELL, KIEFER SUTHERLAND, JENNIFER CONNELLY, and WILLIAM HURT)))
It’s Well Directed.
(((craftily done by ALEX PROYAS whom also directed another favorite of mine "THE CROW")))
The Sets And Special F/X Are Very Cool.
The Plot Can Be A Touch Confusing At Times, But You’ll Eventually Get It In The End.
All In All, I Was Saddened It Had Taken Me So Long To Finally Give It Another Chance.
BUT, In The End, I’m Super Glad I Did.
“DARK CITY” Deserved Better Than What It Got.
It Deserved Better Than What I Gave It.
SO, Here I Am, Trying To Rectify The Problem.
If You’ve Seen This One, GREAT.
If You’ve Not, Well, DO SO.
Some People Can’t Get Enough Of “DARK CITY“…
…Some People Can’t F-in’ Stand It.
WHICH ONE ARE YOU?!??!?
My Curiosity Abounds.
😉 😀 😉
“I Count Myself In Nothing Else So Happy…”
“If You Want To Win Friends…”
“…Make It A Point To Remember Them. If You Remember My Name, You Pay Me A Subtle Compliment. You Indicate That I Have Made An Impression On You. Remember My Name And You Add To My Feeling Of Importance.”
When Remembering Turns To Dwelling Turns To Suffering…
…You Know You‘re Fu*ked.